Most habits don't fail from lack of effort. They fail from too many daily decisions. Pick a time. Pick a place. Lock it in. When the choice is already made, all that's left is showing up. Consistency gets a whole lot easier when you stop renegotiating with yourself.
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Most men think they lack discipline. They think they're not motivated enough. They think if they just tried harder, they'd finally stick with their habits. But that's not the problem. The problem is they're making the same decision over and over every single day. And every time they do, they give themselves a chance to quit.
Habits don't fail from lack of effort. They fail from too many daily decisions. Every morning you wake up and ask yourself "should I work out today?" is another chance to talk yourself out of it. Every night you debate "should I write tonight?" is another opportunity to say no. The issue isn't willpower. It's that you're using willpower in the first place. Because willpower is finite. And every decision drains it a little more.
Here's what actually works. Pick a time. Pick a place. Lock it in. When the choice is already made, all that's left is showing up. I write every day. Not because I'm more disciplined than other people. But because I've learned not to trust myself to schedule it. And so the decision is already made. I don't debate whether I should write that day. I just show up and do it. No negotiation. No internal argument. Just execution.
Consistency gets a whole lot easier when you stop renegotiating with yourself. Because the guys who actually stick with things aren't superhuman. They just stopped giving themselves the option to quit every single day. They made the decision once. Then they built a system that removes the need to keep making it.
So if you keep starting and stopping the same habit, stop asking yourself if you should do it. Pick a time. Pick a place. Lock it in. Then just show up. No debate. No negotiation. Just consistency.