Most guys think about luck like it’s one thing. You either have it or you don’t. The universe either likes you or it doesn’t. But luck isn’t one thing. We use a single word to describe four completely different realities. And if you’re trying to fix the wrong one, you’ll stay stuck no matter what ... <a title="How to Make Your Own Luck (And Why It Can Go Either Way)" class="read-more" href="https://paullinehan.co/how-to-make-your-own-luck/" aria-label="Read more about How to Make Your Own Luck (And Why It Can Go Either Way)">Read more</a>
If you're a man in midlife who feels capped or stuck, the real problem might be the identity you never actually chose. Here's what to do about it.
The Nice Guy Tax is what you pay when you edit yourself for approval, hide your real opinions, and call fear being reasonable.
The entrepreneurial brain can look scattered from the outside. Here’s the difference between testing ideas and running from commitment.
I was scrolling through old messages the other day. Not looking for anything. Just killing time the way you do when you only have a few minutes and don’t want to get into anything. And then one caught my attention: August 12, 2020. A message from a woman named Mary. “I passed my exit exam!” ... <a title="The Climb #28 – Someone Is Watching You" class="read-more" href="https://paullinehan.co/someone-is-watching-you/" aria-label="Read more about The Climb #28 – Someone Is Watching You">Read more</a>
I was driving my wife to work this morning when a friend of ours came up. Not gossip, just the kind of casual morning conversation that ends up accidentally teaching you something. Our friend is in a tough situation. She’s working hard and paying the bills and running the house and watching her partner drift ... <a title="Holding Yourself to Your Own Standards in Midlife" class="read-more" href="https://paullinehan.co/holding-yourself-to-your-own-standards/" aria-label="Read more about Holding Yourself to Your Own Standards in Midlife">Read more</a>
I was about halfway through my Zoom call with my mentor Brett the other morning when I heard myself say something that felt worth writing down. He asked how I was doing. I could tell it wasn’t the automatic version of that question. It was the real one. So I went ahead and told them ... <a title="The Climb #27 – How to Get Out of a Rut (It’s Not What You Think)" class="read-more" href="https://paullinehan.co/the-climb-27-how-to-get-out-of-a-rut/" aria-label="Read more about The Climb #27 – How to Get Out of a Rut (It’s Not What You Think)">Read more</a>
A few days ago I asked a simple question on LinkedIn. When’s the last time you called one of your male friends just to talk? I didn’t expect much to be honest. I figured I’d get maybe a handful of responses from guys who said, “Yeah I should do that more” and then just don’t ... <a title="The Climb #26 – The Cost of Losing Male Friends" class="read-more" href="https://paullinehan.co/the-climb-26-the-cost-of-losing-male-friends/" aria-label="Read more about The Climb #26 – The Cost of Losing Male Friends">Read more</a>
Starting over in midlife feels hard when shame, regret, and feeling behind make action feel exposing. Here’s what really keeps men stuck.
Most men don't remember writing their identity rules. But those rules are blocking more of their life than they realize. Here's how to find yours.